Our singerist has complained a few times last year we're doing too many gigs for his liking. Its been 3 - 4 per month typically and as he likes his weekends away with his partner during the spring-autumn months he told us that this year he'd do one gig a month...2 if we could get 'em both on the same weekend. The rest of the band have liked doing regular gigs as our band really took off last year and are determined to continue as we did last year and do even more gigs if they come our way! Now, we discussed this with him a couple of months ago at the end of one of our weekly rehearsals..of which he would attend 2 a month and then stay only half the duration! See here we've been struggling with a lack of committment. And annoyingly considering his lack of committment he's had most to say in terms of song choices etc. Typical diva type singer traits?
Anyway when we had our chat with him about this year plans back in early november and he told us his comittment for the coming year we suggested we get another singer to do the gigs on weeks he wasn't available.He said "fine - thats alright if you guys want to do that i wont hold you to ransom" his only concern seemed to be if we would go out under the same band name as he saw himself as the singer of that band! Well anyway fast forward a month or so and we had 2 bookings for jan and then in comes a 3rd. The band member that got the booking enquiry text us all to check we're all ok for it and all come back yes..except for our singer! "i'm already doing 2 wk ends and said i'd only do one so no!" he replies. So we took the booking and already was looking for a singer to fill in on those dates our regular singer wouldn't/couldn't. Now when he said all that and said he was cool we wondered if when it really came off if he'd still be cool as he said. And now we tell him the gig on the 18th is with another singer he's talking of doing the 2 gigs he promised in jan and feb and then leaving the band feeling we've gone behind his back and he's not happy that we're going out without him using the same band name. How does this sound to you guys? Have we been reasonable or not?
Seems you can't win with some guys can you! Always seems to be singers that think the band is just there as their backing group and that they are it. With or without him our show goes on. His ego needs a checking.Wondering now if he's gonna do this wk ends gig as in the wake of all this just today he's told the bands founding member that he's gonna leave soon and "have a sore throat..." as we have a gig coming up this wk end. Now wondering if he's gonna let us down. Still if he does it'll be his last gig with us and the new guy will pick up from the 18th onwards should he pull that one on us.
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To me, this sounds like he isn't on the same wavelength as the rest of the band. I'd probably just look to replace him fulltime if you all want to gig more. If this can be done with no hard feelings you can always keep him in mind if you need a dep.
Making a band work is about so much more than whether people can play/sing - having decent gear, being reliable, getting on with each other (or being able to work together), finding material you all want to play and all wanting to do the same type and quantity of gigs.
Just a thought though - you might have 3 gigs in Jan but how many in Feb - we always talk about the average number of gigs - I sometimes have a free weekend, sometimes I play 3 nights in a row.
It's his choice to do less than everyone else - that's his right and if you want more at the cost of doing them without him then fair enough.
Sometimes when you take everything else into account and the availablity of a new singer that ticks all the boxes, it's ok to compromise and fit in with the old guy but if you're happy to go with a new singer (and it sounds like you are) and have thought about all the other issues then he's talking himself out of the job.
I went through a similar issue last year when I wanted to cut out some of the poor gigs and keep the good ones - even if that meant playing less - it took a while for us to find a compromise but we found a way through it - lots of honest talking will either sort a compromise or not.
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