It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!
Subscribe to our Patreon, and get image uploads with no ads on the site!
Base theme by DesignModo & ported to Powered by Vanilla by Chris Ireland, modified by the "theFB" team.
Comments
No-one is inferior and no-one is worthless because of how they look. It's how you live that is the measure of who you are.
It's very true that understanding that actually, you are a person just like everyone else, and that you have every right to be who you are, and be happy in that, is the start point to feeling settled in yourself. Without that, you can look like the most beautiful person on the planet and not be content.
People fixated on their appearance are usually very boring vapid characters that don't seem to enrich anyone's life.
It kinda ties into what I suspect is that as a society men tend to be valued for what we do for people rather than what we are. And from my perspective, women don't have that problem. They're valued for who they are as people, regardless of whether they bring anything to the table.
And as guys, we just kinda laugh at it... coz it's all we can do really.
3 of Jon Kabat-Zinn's Attitudes of Mindfulness are Non Judging (in this case not judging your own appearance), Acceptance (of the way you look), and Letting Go (of preconceived ideas about how you would like to look, or of how you assume society wants you to appear).
It can be a powerful tool in dropping the baggage that we carry around and It can give you a breathing space between daily triggers (eg catching a glimpse of yourself in the mirror) and your automatic and unhelpful reactions to them (eg losing the next hour to wishing you looked a different way).