I had an appointment today, and I wanted my wife to come with me so we arranged to take our 2 year old to the childminder.
We're paying for a full day, which runs 8:00 til 18:00. Didn't say we'd do anything different than usual, which is pick her up from the house at 18:00.
Had the appointment and went to pick our son up from school at 15:15. We saw the childminder with our daughter at the school as she picks up other kids, but she was some distance away and we didn't speak.
We still had a supermarket visit to do, so was just going to pick her up at the usual time.
Next thing I know my 2 year old is at my side and I notice the childminder's 8 year old daughter is walking away. The childminder is absolutely nowhere to be seen. We stood for 5 minutes wondering what was going on, expecting maybe the childminder to run up in a panic but no. She seems to have told her daughter to bring her across the school grounds and return her to us. As though she's just made a decision that the childminding is over, and that it's ok to just send another kid to return the child.
I can't get my head around this. Of all the different reasons it might have happened, none of them are understandable or acceptable.
I've had a look at the contract and it just says ad hoc on it, so I'm assuming it's reasonable for me to inform her that she's sacked?
Comments
Get rid.
If you pay in advance, ask for your money back for any outstanding days, and if she gets arsey about it, tell her you'll report her to the council - I'm almost totally certain that leaving a 2-year-old in the care of an 8-year-old, however briefly, is a breach of the childminding regulations and probably the law.
"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein
I thought maybe my phone would start ringing and she'd be on the other end in tears thinking she'd lost her, but no. Nothing, so it certainly appears deliberate and I don't think I've got the wrong end of the stick.
I’d always choose a nursery over a childminder - the children are supervised by more than one person and don’t get attached the same.
The main thing is though you have no idea what the comings and goings are at a childminders house but can be reasonably sure that everything is above board at a nursery.
Good luck whatever happens.
this is what I find scariest, and how she hasn't even sent a text saying "just checking you got her" or anything similar. She's thought nothing of this, as though it's a normal thing to do.
Take the nursery route if you can. Your child will learn a lot more in preparation for school entry and, as has been said, the standards of supervision and child security are usually high - and are checked.
explain your concern and potential anger
ask her what she did and why
then you can decide to terminate etc as you wish.
But ask her first
"please would you be able to explain what happened in the playground yesterday? We were waiting for [son], I looked down and [daughter] was by my side with [her daughter], who then said bye and walked away. We looked around for you, couldn't find you so just had to take [daughter] home and we've had no contact since?"
I've not sent it yet in case it's crap.
"Take these three items, some WD-40, a vise grip, and a roll of duct tape. Any man worth his salt can fix almost any problem with this stuff alone." - Walt Kowalski
"Only two things are infinite - the universe, and human stupidity. And I'm not sure about the universe." - Albert Einstein