Depressing thread alert.....
Write down stuff that your loved ones will need in the event of your death. It doesn't matter if you are 18 or 81... Just write it down and put it with the important documents. You don't know when your time is up, but you wouldn't believe how stressful trying to sort out the little unknowns are for your relatives.
Simple stuff like whether you want to be buried or cremated, which cemetery/crematorium, what music, whether you want a religious minister or not, what you want to happen to your ashes etc. Even if it's nothing more than "I don't give a shit... do whatever you like". Just do it - and do it this weekend.
Trying to arrange a funeral for someone who hasn't left such a list causes a shitload of worry as you really want to do whatever is right by them but you are left never knowing if what you are arranging is what they would have wanted. It sounds trivial, but you REALLY don't need it when you have a hundred other things to sort out and whilst you are grieving.
Also, funerals aren't cheap - even a basic no-frills job is upwards of three and a half grand, and somebody has to find that money.
My mum's funeral director is a real solid guy and he advised against commercial funeral plans - as they aren't in it for love, they're making a profit. Just put a few quid away each month into an account so that when the time comes, and there's no avoiding it for any of us, your loved ones aren't left suddenly trying to raise several grand.
I know this is a bit morbid, but if only one of you takes my advice, that's one family who will find the most painful time life has in store for them so much easier.
Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.
Also chips are "Plant-based" no matter how you cook them.
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You ought to be able to claim back funeral expenses against the estate (if there is one of course)
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If you play in a covers band you get used to playing for other people... it's about them, not you.
But your funeral?
Should your music choices be about you (and your weird taste in music that no one else gets), or should you do the equivalent of a covers band play list?
Also chips are "Plant-based" no matter how you cook them.
Apparently she and my dad had never discussed funeral plans, we encouraged them to try to talk about it - diificult subject though it was, of course - when it became clear she was terminally ill, but she simply wouldn't respond. So it was down to my dad to make decisions, but he's spent the last 40 years doing what he's told.... so in the end we basically had to go with what seemed most sensible. Fortunately the vicar at their church knows them quite well and she was very helpful.
We settled on cremation but there was a bit of hassle from various relatives sticking their noses in - saying things like "Yorkshire people get buried" or making dopey suggestions about what should be done with the ashes.
It has made me consider my own mortality, a little.
Embrace your spirit and your fellow man's spirit. There is nothing left to hide but the moment so share it.
Good luck Emp.
Most important thing is that this must be the last piece of music played - especially the hidden track at 4:50.
"I'll be alright, don't worry 'bout me"...
There was a Radio 4 comedy show about this last night. Which may not be in the best taste given the OP (hope this doesn't cause offence) but it was quite informative about funerals and amusing too.
A wicker coffin is now apparently as common as the standard wooden affair - which I felt was interesting.
I know it sounds trivial but there are other issues at play here that I'd prefer to be kept private, no offence. When you are grieving, the silliest little thing becomes blown out of all proportion.
I've got to sort out the music now. I know which pieces exactly. One of them was used at my Dad's funeral and it kills me every time I hear it.
I've got to make a CD for the funeral director - I'm taking no chances - Verbatim disc, burned at 1x speed with a backup disc in case. I have to get it to him in advance so he can test it as well.
I can't imagine what scars have been left by whoever made this blunder:- http://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/wales-news/grieving-familys-horror-hardcore-pornography-10797800
Also chips are "Plant-based" no matter how you cook them.
I had a chat with all of them after I first got Crohn's, and had a close call.
Well worth a few minutes to talk/write down these things.
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Im not one that wants to plan out a funeral for myself or pick out songs, I won't be there.
Ive no money put aside for it, perhaps I should set something up.
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