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Teenagers actually respond well to boundaries, the problem is imposing them late when they have got used to doing as they please.
Bear in mind, even though they think they are adults, they are most definitely not, and will make all the wrong decisions given half a chance. You are the adult, they will get there eventually.
And thanks everyone.I'm pretty easily won over but I think Donna may have a different outlook on it,which I totally sympathise with as she's usually the one dealing with it every morning. Much to chew over.
In terms of "family time" and phones, we have a rule that there are no phones at the table (I was as guilty of that at times as anyone). Apart from that though, talk to them and explain why you don't want phones during family time, and ask if they are happy with that that. Maybe their idea of chilling, hanging out and relaxing is talking while playing on their phones. So maybe see about a compromise.
How about you propose that on EITHER Friday or Saturday night, you have a film with no phones. If they can agree to one night while the film is on, great, if they can't, who wins from them sitting their pissed off wishing they were using their phones, and you sitting there wishing they were not pissed off about it?
Otherwise, what is more important here? Your relationship with them, or them not being on their phones?
You need to encourage and support him to take that opportunity with his apprenticeship. You can't effectively strong-arm someone into it. Or not particularly well.
He is only 1 though
Those that say 'your house your rules' seem to have a simplistic one size fits all attitude to life, and reality ain't like that. Some things they come around with over time.
Modern parents eh.I think we worry too much.
I'm tied to my phone - thanks to work. I get up at 06:00, so it's up, phone, shower, phone, out, phone, breakfast on the move, catch bus at 06:20, phone all the way to work. It's almost becoming an essential skill.
@ewal you and your wife need to sort out what your joint position is and stick to it. That sounds like a recipe for disaster.
Now hes got a job make him pay it ( if he doesn't already), if he gets the sack then no more phone. or He ca ndo as you ask and you'll still pay his bill?
That's a rule we have too, nothing in bedrooms, not even TVs.
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We won't allow our kids to have TV's in their rooms either if and when they ask. We haven't got one in ours so why should they. In fact we only have one TV in the whole house.
No help but we have the same problem here some days. Other days she's good as gold and exceedes our expectations by getting completely ready by herself, face washed, teeth cleaned and dressed etc.
Some days though it's a complete meltdown and we have to do it all for her!
Hair washing generally results in screaming for no apparent reason as well...
Re. OP question at 17 he definitely has to make his own mistakes. You can try and guide him but then it's up to him.
House rules are an interesting one at that age. I guess they can be brought into force though - as long as they are not too draconian.
Her 8 year old sister is nagging for a phone but she's not getting one yet. Some of her friends have got phones with no SIM cards so they can play games on it etc. That might be a good first step.
We're definitely no TVs in rooms as well.
Edit: Does anyone know much about Roblox? Our older one has been playing it as a guest without an account so she can't talk to anyone on there. It looks mostly harmless and at least one of her friends has an account, but we are undecided about whether to let her have an account.
Hes more than old enough to make his own choices, you have explained your feelings, it's up to him to do it.
bear in mind I was given 'my way or the highway' and I chose the highway, moved out few weeks after my 16th birthday, been living by my rules ever since, hardly talk to my parents.
@breakstuff not having a go at you fella, you sound a very loving and concerned dad, just remember teens these days have f all to rebel against, don't give him you.
Sounds like you have a goid bunch