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My niece has a 7 year old girl who has some behavioural problems...."oh, she has OCD" says her mum, but I think it goes way deeper than that. I think she ticks every single box for Asperger's, every single box, and the list is long
As an extended family we are all very close I guess, but I can't walk up to my niece and say..."I think your daughter has Asperger's..." on the other hand ,and from what I have since read , early diagnosis is crucial
She is a high functioning wee girl and everyone is walking on eggshells around her
I don't know what to do for the best....bring the subject up, and if a DX is made she could get the proper care and guidance, or keep my none of my business nosy parker face out of things....I don't have a family myself but I try to put myself in my nieces shoes and imagine how I would feel if a relative came to me and said, I think your daughter has Asperger's...
Thing is, there is a younger 2 year old girl in the family and I can clearly see the effect her older sister's behaviour is having on her
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If you don't mention the possibility now, eventually, somebody will be asking why you didn't mention it when you first suspected.
No win.
No need for you to do anything, just act like you would normally. The child needs to learn how people normally respond to their behaviour.
I have worked closely with dozens of Aspergers and ASD students in secondary schools. I wouldn't say any of them "ticked all the boxes".
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my "ticked all the boxes" is just my indelicate way of saying she appears to show signs of all the signs and symptoms required in a DX of Aspergers
at most, next time the mother mentions the behaviour, ask "what do the school say?".
i say this as a parent who thinks their daughter shows some symptoms. But my expertise in the subject is with teenagers so I won't try and diagnose my 5 year old. (Or myself)
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I know the case of a young woman, 22, who was misdiagnosed with an eating disorder for several years before correctly identifying OCD behaviour as the driver for the problem -- OCD which, incidentally, started at the age of seven.
Talking about the OCD-like behaviour enables you to have that conversation with your niece, "OCD or Asperger's?..."
Or something like, "Your girl reminds me of a drummer I worked with who had Asperger's. Do they check for that at school?"
It's an indirect way, if you wanted one, of asking if the girl's teachers have ever wondered anything.
You might be the third person to wonder to your niece about it and she might have put the other two out of her mind.
You're not being nosey; you're being concerned.
I saw someone with a funny looking lump on their eye. "What's that?" "Nothing." "Get it checked out." "Really?" "Yes."
They cut it out the same week.
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Disagree massively. If someone is "labeled" then it generally means in life, and particularly in education, they can receive whatever help they need to do their best.
A child on the autistic spectrum could be way above average in the intelligence stakes but suffer educationally due to lack of planning, social skills, fear of asking questions etc etc
With the right understanding from their school it could make a world of difference and go on to positively influence their adult lives also. Part of being in school is how to learn interact with you peers, something most kids on the spectrum need at least a little help with.
Call me a cynic, but my sister was diagnosed with Asperger's. Personally I think it was the worst thing for her.
In response to a comment above about the risk of the label and being given certain drugs. As a society we are far less prone to stigmatising individuals than we have been in the past, in fact a diagnosis can lead to a far better range of support being opened up, including training the child to cope with certain situations that they find difficult -which becomes essential once the child becomes a hormonal teenager.
It was actually the school who picked it up, as when he was younger he had a few mannerisms, but none that you would notice as different from any other over excited kid.
Now he's a bit older, you can clearly see the autistic mannerisms.
Since proper diagnosis, he has received lots of help from the school (he has his own "office" in a corner of the classroom for when it gets to overwhelming he can just go and have his own space there) as well as other help.
If it is uncomfortable for you, go down to "what does school say" route, and then bring in symptoms to the conversation or something.. can't really help with the how, but the support she will get will significantly help her in the short and long run.