We grew up together, and though I haven't seen him for a number of years, that doesn't change our history. We went abroad together, saw Queen's final gig together and the Freddie Memorial concert. Now he's gone. Because of a car full of angry young morons.
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/road-rage-victim-dies-hospital-21344638I've also now got a dilemma... Because of possible further charges being brought, they've delayed the funeral - to the 13th. Four days after I'm supposed to be flying to Spain for a holiday booked previously. TUI want another £300 to move the dates, assuming I can get the new dates off from work.
Most people know we were close mates and they're all going to think I'm a right shit if I'm not there, but on the other hand, what does attending a funeral service actually mean?
I wouldn't want anyone to reschedule their plans to attend
my funeral. It's not like I'm going to know is it! Even if I could know, I still wouldn't want them to do it. ...but, that's me.
I've enquired whether I can see him before the funeral, to say my goodbyes privately.
Why are young men so stupid and angry ?
Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine.
Also chips are "Plant-based" no matter how you cook them.
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Hope the fuckers get the book thrown at them.
My opinion is you should attend the funeral - holidays really aren’t that important. Saying goodbye to someone you love is...
Does your travel insurance cover the change in dates?
I would personally look at it less as a traditional funeral or a chance to say "goodbye", and more a rare opportunity to be with lots of people who all want to tell the best stories about the guy, all at the same time.
Even though you could be thinking about him wherever you might be in the world - I think it would also means a lot to his family to see you there.
What does attending a funeral mean?
I don’t know. To honour them and pay your respects in the accepted and traditional fashion maybe. Yes. It’s respectful.
Also chips are "Plant-based" no matter how you cook them.
may your friend rest in peace.
I've always been told that funerals are for the living. Do you feel you need to go? If so, I'd suggest the holiday being rebooked is a good idea. If you don't *want* to go, perhaps not.
There's actually a CCTV video of the guy returning to his mates and acting out what he's just done. He was charged but as far as I'm aware never actually took the punishment, just fucked off and hid.
In my opinion funeral services are for the living, which sounds obvious but some people seem to think you are honouring a dead person by going. The person has gone, ceased to be, etc., at least in my opinion. Do whatever you want, I say.
My feedback thread is here.
You owe it to yourself to give a final farewell to someone that means so much to you. You'll only regret it otherwise.
I find myself in ever-increasing 'similar' situations before (getting more frequent the older I get) whereby I get to hear of friends with whom I used to be good mates with from years back that have suddenly passed away. I'm of an age where my life would revolve around going to funerals if I let it, so I've now decide to let them all go, and get on with living what life I have left. I go to funerals if I am able, but in your case I would go on holiday and just remember the deceased as you knew him.
Horrible story, clearly he was a lovely person.
I'd take the holiday, get your mind off a tragic event.
(I have been described as a callous bastard in the past).