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It sounds like you are doing a brilliant job.
My OH is now effectively paraplegic and needs four care visits a day, too. That's the maximum anyone will be offered and the idea that your dad did not qualify for continuous care, and thus have his care paid for, is frankly appalling.
My OH is only different because she can communicate and has me with her, so when our carers come, they use a portable hoist (which I am legally forbidden from using on my own) to lift her to and from the various places. You're very lucky they only charged your dad £300 a week, I'm apparently facing £900.
As for your step mum losing the home, that would be completely illegal. They could, had it come to it, have put a charge on your dad's half of the house, so when your step mum sold the house and downsized, or died and left it to you, say, your dad's half of the estate would have been subject to a charge.
His savings would - or rather should - have been mostly safe below the level of £23,500 (there's a complicated calculation to do with the value of the contribution) and untouched below the level of £14,000.
Our problem is that I'm self-employed, so what my wife has been through over the past few years has had a massive effect on my income - clients can no longer get me as instantly as they used to and have deserted me, and my income is now 75% down from its height in 2007. But I still have to pay the mortgage, somehow, and we've been chewing through our savings down the years. We'll now have to use at least some of those to pay for Jan's care.
I'll stop there, because I could write several thousand words about all this, and I don't want to bore the pants of you all. But as I said to the hospital staff, it's all very well expecting me to adjust now that our life has been turned upside down, but that takes time. They couldn't give a shit about that, and I'll have to do it all on the fly.
Anyway, I'll move on now. I do know that there's a lot to do and move and change and take in.
Sympathy doesn't seem nearly enough, but you certainly have mine. Not sure I'd cope in the same set of circumstances tbh but I guess you just have to get on with it. All the best.