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The other element is whether someone is latching onto a label to quantify and make sense of their feelings about themselves, or whether they genuinely have a diagnosable, medically recognised condition. I'm certainly no expert, but if you experience all of the criteria you've listed, then that sounds like you've got BDD - I certainly don't get those (I don't spend much time looking in a mirror, but this is largely because I don't shave regularly and I've had the same hair style for over 20 years which doesn't require drying, much less brushing) other than the skin picking (which I wouldn't say is about making anything smooth, but is more about some obsessive compulsive tendencies I have), so I am certain that I don't - my "flaws" are real, they just aren't important (or at least aren't important enough for me to do anything about them).
If you're concerned, go and see someone (if you haven't already of course). There will be someone who can a ) diagnose you properly and b ) give you some methods to help manage it on a day to day, and long term basis. Good luck, and remember - it's what on the inside that really matters (a subject on which my personal self-loathing is based :-D)
My "solution" now - for the mind problem, not the foot problem - is to never look at my feet (the right one is OK but sometimes it's hard to look at one foot and not the other). So having a bath, changing socks, whatever... I don't look at my feet. Actually maybe that is body dysmorphia, although the issue with my foot is real.
I'm so glad I'm not alone!
Mine is weird. My feet are a strange shape (very, very wide) but the right foot also has eczema that's very bad when it flares up (oh boy, I bet you think I'm sexy now!).
This adds up to something that has frustrated me and been "ugly" to me since I was a teenager, and it came to a head when I deliberately shut it in a car door because I wanted rid. It was a stupid, shameful thing to do.
Thankfully, it wasn't effective. Didn't even need to see a doctor - I had a cut and a big bruise but not much else to show. As luck would have it, a news report on the BBC that same week was about body dismorphia and I immediately understood why I felt the way I did. Ever since, I've treated it the same way I manage my depression and I've been absolutely fine with it. It is amazing how powerful and how fragile my tiny, smooth brain is...
I'm glad we're not calling you ThePegleggedDamned.
I look like a old grey horse that’s been beaten with a shovel so assumed they liked the look of someone else in my group so when a couple wandered over I went to step back.
To my absolute joy the ‘leader’ of the group invited me to join them for a drink as ‘half of our group think you are really handsome and the other half think you are really really ugly’
I was well pleased with that and just goes to show people don’t always see what you see in the mirror (well the really hammered ones don’t)
OK, here's mine.... for the last several years, my feet have started to swell up during the summer months, ridiculous as it sounds! The left is more affected than the right, sometimes it's the whole of my lower left leg. Normally they just look a bit "puffy", which goes away temporarily when I wear shoes and walk around for a while. But anyway, it always went away when the weather got cooler, until the next spring/summer.
Last June there was a really hot spell and my left foot went very bad - so swollen that my ankle bones and achilles tendon were completely invisible, I couldn't flex the ankle at all, had difficulty putting shoes on and it actually hurt for the first time. I tried consulting the GP - in lockdown, so it was a stupid online consultation and all they suggested was elevating it... thanks a bunch, doc. It gradually got better over the next couple of months and I kept counting down - it'll be back to normal by the end of September... October... November... but it never happened. The pain went, most of the swelling went, but now my right foot is white, skinny and bony and my left foot is permanently pink and a bit puffy. I hate looking at it.
This summer, especially the two very hot spells we've had, the swelling has come back big time, but not as bad as last year, and no pain. So maybe it is very gradually improving. I hope it doesn't get worse as I get older, it makes me feel like a freak. I've never been one to wear shorts in the summer, but now I wouldn't even consider it.
There you go, that's me flying my freak flag high.
.... then I went and lost it all!!
Devil's in the details
Turns out one of the enthusiastic ones was married to a bloke I did some work for and he is huge and known for having a temper . Once I worked that out I scuttled back to the safety of my drinking buddies :-)
I remember being quite conscious of it as a late teen but not to the extent that it was an issue
One of my daughters has my nose but a smaller version and goes on and on about getting a nose job
Obvious trolling on a valuable thread removed.
As you were.
If it's a large mole, or ears which stick out, or yes, maybe a very big nose, then of course I can see their point of view, even if I don't agree that it looks bad. But so many people, from Hollywood stars to regular people, are obsessed with having work done when others would think there was nothing at all "wrong".
I don't particularly like my face, but I'd find it very hard to say well, if I fixed that one feature I'd look fucking great. I think all my features are pretty "normal"... they just don't combine together very well.