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Ringleader of the Cambridge cartel, pedal champ and king of the dirt boxes (down to 21)
Offset "(Emp) - a little heavy on the hyperbole."
just because you do, doesn't mean you should.
You get the chance to be totally honest with your "boss", and you get independence.
And while it's not an easy option, you get the chance to make it work, and you know your success is down to your own efforts; ditto your failures.
Just a thought.
:-)
Objectivity is often in short supply during periods of depression/unemployment/illness. Sometimes one extra criticism/rejection can feel devastating, whilst the same thing with another person would just make them think 'up yours'.
One function of forums like this, is that they give people who feel isolated for various reasons, the opportunity to reach out and feel a part of something. When someone comes back at you in a way which you (one?) considers disproportionate, it can be genuinely hurtful subjectively, irrespective of the person's intentions.
I divorced five years ago in the most awful of circumstances and my son lives predominantly with me. I work 50 hours a week in a highly stressful sales role. I have little time to myself and don't get out much. I have been somewhat depressed for years - hence I hope I have some understanding of your situation.
My very best wishes to you and the very best of luck....
I've not made any set decisions yet, don't worry. I know a job isn't going to fall into my lap, because I haven't got one when applying for many per week.
but I digress, I wish you all the best in getting a job and I don't think of your exit as a flounce because you didn't publish your passwords and list a load of people you dislike and curse anyone commenting on your passing with the evil eye - which is the way to flounce that I was taught and tried several times - I mean god it's flouncing no seppukka..
Have you thought of checking out volunteer opportunities or if that's insulting, becoming a policeman - the pay isn't great but you get a rebate for your uniform and truncheon vouchers...(I made that one up just now) I nearly became a policeman once, when I was really drunk and one tried to tell me off.. I know his mates in the van liked me better, it didn't come to blows because I'm a better man... you still not there? good
god speed holn... all over
just because you do, doesn't mean you should.
Supportact said: [my style is] probably more an accumulation of limitations and bad habits than a 'style'.
I think it's good that this was clarified and a perfectly understandable point. At the time it may have seem baffling that in a thread entitled "Shit that boils your piss." that @holnrew was picked up.
@holnrew - I completely understand the double-edged sword of declaring an illness. My wife used to work at getting people back to work who had been on long term sick and a close friend still works for an organisation that specialises in helping people with mental illness finding work. You do not have to declare anything and obviously they would always advice against it. If you are ready to go back to work, nobody has the right to discriminate but obviously they do so sadly the best way around it is to lie - and feel no guilt about it. When it comes to explaining why you couldn't work, either say you were studying some imaginary course to better yourself of that you were caring for someone else.
And when it comes to finding work don't put the strain on yourself as it is possibly one of the worst times in modern history to find work.
As others have said, @Holnrew has shown a huge amount of bravery and guts in what he's said.
Props to Holn for that.
Ringleader of the Cambridge cartel, pedal champ and king of the dirt boxes (down to 21)