Funeral Dress Code

guitars4you

So are you still a dark/black suit person - Or smart casual

Small Crem do and will be over in 5 mins - No relatives and only a few friends - Is smart casual acceptable these days - Then a wake in the local British Legion - So a simple send off 

nero1701

Black jeans. Boots and a white shirt imo

Offset

Smart casual by default unless a specific dress code is requested.

LionAquaLooper

Suit not necessary IMO.  But still smart shoes. 

Philly_Q

I've been in suit and black tie for the three funerals I've been to in relatively recent years - because that's what I thought you were supposed to do - but I'd say the majority of people there were not so formal. 

And these were all for family members, so I was directly involved to some extent.

If attending a friend's funeral, as part of the "congregation", I think smart casual is fine.  Or smart sober casual - nothing too colourful. 

strumjoughlamps

If there wasn’t a dress code request eg shorts and Hawaiian shirt, sports team top etc… then it’s trousers, shoes, white shirt and black tie for me. Then I know I’m not going to upset anyone.

guitars4you

Philly_Q said:

I've been in suit and black tie for the three funerals I've been to in relatively recent years - because that's what I thought you were supposed to do - but I'd say the majority of people there were not so formal. 

That sounds like me - Traditionally have always gone suit but recently found I’ve almost been one of the few in a suit - Today’s funeral was a friend who barely ever wore a shirt and tie hence my question about going more smart casual - But agree with @LionAquaLooper that smart shoes are still appropriate 

CaseOfAce

I don't even have a black suit in the wardrobe these days so it would have to be a suit jacket black tie and dark jeans.

fretmeister

Dark suit for me. Always.

Funerals aren't for the dead, they are for the living left behind. It's how I choose to show respect. 
I have no problem standing next to someone wearing a Hawaiian shirt though. That's up to them.

CHRISB50

Navy or dark grey suit. White shirt. Black or navy tie. Black shoes.

Unless I'm asked to wear something specific.

Sporky

fretmeister said:

I have no problem standing next to someone wearing a Hawaiian shirt though. 

It was all I had clean.

I've only been to three. I've gone dark suit, white or grey shirt, black tie. 

revsorg

Dark suit, black tie, polished black shoes.

goldtop

Suit. Black tie. Always.

Kittyfrisk

I once attended a ceremony where the dress code was 'as bright & loud as possible'. Hawaiian shirt's were duly donned.
The last funeral I was at, was my friends & I was a pall bearer so showing respect was a given, dark suit, white shirt, black tie & polished shoes.
I'd say there are no fixed rules these days, it depends on your personal relationship with the dead person & more importantly having a thought for how living relatives might feel.

Sporky

My mums was "however you feel comfortable". So a fair few moderately colourful dresses, but for a funeral I'm as comfortable as I can be in a suit. Dinosaur onesie felt a bit wrong for that, though I'm sure she'd have found it funny. 

NothingOnTheTele

Smart casual is perfectly acceptable if they haven't specified a dress code. As is formal attire.

I'd be happy with smart casual at my own funeral.

Iamnobody

I have one suit that’s dark grey - it gets rolled out for funerals, weddings, interviews etc with only a change of tie to mark the actual occasion. Black for a funeral, more colourful for a wedding and something conservative for an interview. I’m not ‘Colin’ with a comedy tie! 

Play it safe if unsure - if you then attend anywhere in a suit and you feel overdressed or uncomfortable, just whip the tie and jacket off for a more casual look. 

Tannin

Just wear dark colours. Anyone who expects anything more than this is living on another planet.

Paul_C

I was talking about this only yesterday - if it was down to me I'd be perfectly happy to be cremated and have all my ashes binned without all the funeral nonsense, but I recognise that it's not all about me so people can do what they want, I won't mind.

Philly_Q

Paul_C said:

I was talking about this only yesterday - if it was down to me I'd be perfectly happy to be cremated and have all my ashes binned without all the funeral nonsense, but I recognise that it's not all about me so people can do what they want, I won't mind.

Tannin

Loved the speech by the daughter of the deceased a few weeks ago (my brother-in-law, actually).

He didn't want a funeral. So they had one anyway - well, a service and a celebration - and his daughter spoke movingly and beautifully. She brought the house down saying "Dad didn't want a ceremony, but we are having one anyway and because he is dead he can't do anything about it!" The old boy, had he lived to see it, would have loved it.