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I think it comes down to whether my Parents are capable of looking after themselves. Considering how much they've done for me it is a small thing to take care of them.
Pah. Do you know how long it takes to dig a decent hole?
The issue for me is that I live 80 miles away and have no intention of giving up my job or selling my house to move there, so there's a limit to what I can do anyway.
I'd like to think my daughters would do the same.
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That seems amazing to me, I think we're a similar age but all my grandparents died more than 30 years ago. If they were still around they'd all be at least 110 years old.
Neither of them visited her for at least a month after their sister (my g/f's mum) died this year, didn't attend the funeral, and neither came for her 92nd birthday last week. They both expect the will to be split between them. My g/f hasn't asked to be written into the will in any way, what will be will be (no pun intended), though she will be acting as LPA since her mum died. I just find it sad, she's no trouble and quite funny company.
My other grandmother died in 1973 from cancer and I never met either of my grandfathers, they both died from the long-term effects of injuries sustained in WW2.
It's funny, I mostly work with people under 25 and most of them think I'm joking when I say I'm visiting my grandmother on the weekend.
Thanks. See I couldn't commit to that. I have a family, I spend four hours a day just travelling to/from work. Which is why I asked the question I guess. I have complete respect for those who do that, but should I commit to doing that at the expense of my family? My gut says "no", and I haven't read anything which makes me think I am being too unreasonable, although obviously some people on here are in the position to do that..
I daresay it'll become an issue at some point but I've spent the last 40 years fostering a portrait of dismissive entitlement to the point where both parents would rather lie bleeding on the kitchen floor than ask me for grudging help.
I have three caring siblings who will pick up the slack so the folks will probably be alright.
Have a plan, but have plans B, C and D as well.
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At the end of the day there's no law saying anyone has to do anything. It comes down to personal experiences, choices, and ultimately circumstance (luck).
Everyone thinks they've be brought up the right way. (OK...nearly everyone)
Some might certainly say that parents raising their kids as future unpaid care home assistants is selfish and barbaric. Others might not.