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I chatted with Mrs T this morning and since she's been admant he's got another woman right from the start (!), I said "if he tells me I'd have to tell you as I don't want to lie" (even though I already have while I've been getting my head round it all) - she said "I don't want to know". I said would you tell his wife to which she said no that's not my job - Mrs T is good like that. So my plan is to have a beer with mate on Friday when he gets back and tell him that I'm not prepared to keep his secrets so in future please don't tell me any and that if I'm asked I will tell Mrs T as I don't want his tissue of lies affecting my own relationship
You might want to keep it to yourself about how you were talking about his missus though : )
Seven years ago, we found out that good mate #1 (friend from university, some 20 years ago) was shagging his secretary (cliche) behind his wife's (good mate #2, also a friend from university) back.
Two kids involved.
She was distraught.
Massively changed the group dynamic; as a group, we'd all had kids at the same time, regularly met up despite living all over the country. The kids have grown up knowing each other.
All bollocked up now.
I get what he did, and in his defence he's settled down with the "other woman", and they have a lovely son together now. And friend #2 has moved on, and ultimately its doing her good. But I do resent him in a way (unfairly), for messing up the group.
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stay out of it. Be a best mate but dont be a mug.
Tell him you dont want to know what hes up to as its too soon. He will understand 100%. If hes your best mate then i am assuming he is a decent bloke. The situation will be killing him inside . The guilt alone will have him drop 2 dress sizes (every cloud). He may have fell out of love with his wife but i doubt he has stopped loving his kids.
What if his new/old Girlfriend has a change of heart and dumps him (too much baggage) its early days.
He may need you more than you think. Better make up the spare bed! Unless you blabbed too much to the Mrs and she wont have him in the house. Then what. Would you see him on the street ? it can and does happen. Things may get a lot worse for both of them.
I never heard from my friend again but wasn't particularly bothered.
Can I get an Amen?
Studio: https://www.voltperoctave.com
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To the op all I can say is I don't have secrets from my wife or her from me - everyone who knows us knows thats how it is, I trust her totally. I also don't go round judging others, mainly as I've fecked up enough of my own shit at times.
Saying that this is a very awkward situation and I wish you wisdom in negotiating a path through it all.