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Personally I'd avoid it at all costs....
My parents divorce was ugly, lasted years, and probably cost 1000s
A shame though bud, no chance of relighting the candle?
The most dramatic one was a wealthy female friend found out that her husband was on sugar daddy websites and had a string of young girls on the go.
She booted him out, she has the kids and from the sounds of it he got a massive payday in the settlement.
The other one was some friends of mine (male and a female, not in a relationship together) had their respective partners run off with each other. Kids involved, everyone knew each other, very, very messy.
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We went to mediation to help sort out the divorce and come to a reasonable settlement. To a certain extent I had to go belly up to do the right thing for my daughters. She got the house and I came away with an amount we had in savings.
We kept things civil and I stayed in regular contact with my daughters, which was the most important thing to me. Neither of us ever said anything negative about the other in front of my daughters.
But now it's water under the bridge and I've been happily remarried for just over 10 years to my 2nd wife who is truly my soulmate. She's the same age as me and we have everything in common with a shared history of the way things were and the bands we were into when we were young.
My daughters are grown up now (19 and 21). I still see them regularly and they always want to come to my gigs. I get on well with my ex wife.
Although I didn't realise at the time, my ex wife was right. We weren't meant to stay together and getting divorced was the best thing.
There will be arguments and recriminations but overall try to stay civil and see it as a new start. Things will get better with time and, on the positive side, you now have the opportunity to meet the person you are meant to be with.
Isn't anything like freshly butchered pork though, like they used to do here before it started coming in vac packed, water pumped plastic packages from Holland. They still do that at 3am in the markets in SE Asia and the bacon tastes mighty good. Although you shouldn't eat pig because they are intelligent animals, but then you shouldn't eat human either because apparently so are they..
Good luck with the divorce, at least it sounds amicable. If it wasn't, my advice would be to eat her. Dispose of the evidence, that's what I'd do with a not very amicable divorcee. Obviously that's all hypothetical because no one will ever marry me.
Kind of sad people drift apart but they do. Hope your parents live long enough to see you happily remarried, or set up elsewhere.
A trip to Center Parcs maybe?
Serious answer I know a mate in your position and he seems happy to have moved on. It was tough at first though for both of them.
I would ask myself this:
Am I happy now?
Would I be happier on my own?
Has anything changed that can easily be undone?
Do I want to make it work?
Then ask her the same questions...
some more details... I'm 34, been married 6 years. We own a house together which we've done quite a lot of work on. Everything very amicable...we've already both said no lawyers, and it is pretty easy to divvy up what we've got. What ESBlonde said about walking away friends and both a but richer seems very likely the outcome.
on the 'try harder to make it work' front... It seems like we've done that. The unhappiness between us is about two years old now, and I think there's been about 3 really major bust ups in that time which have ended with 'we both need to work a lot harder to make this work'. Somehow we haven't made it work. I think to a certain extent we both feel burnt out; that there isn't enough spark left to rekindle a flame, no matter how much kindling we throw on the fire.
ultimately no one knows the answer but me and my wife, but it's good to talk about it so thanks. Good to hear other people's stories. For e.g. @axisus you said you pulled it back from the brink. How close was it, were you and mrs axisus as far as discussing printing off the papers and putting the house on the market? We are.
cheers guys
Sorry to hear about the drifting apart and yes - good that there are no kids involved.
Interesting thread!
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