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I loved being married; I loved wearing a wedding ring. I was proud to tell the world I was committed to my wife and my wife only.
I'm not saying everyone should be married - but I respect the institution. I've gone into what went wrong on here before and would rather not do so again, as I'm trying to put the past behind me - but I tried as hard as I could to preserve the relationship. I fought for my marriage - and in spite of the horrors of its eventual demise, I'd love to meet a new Mrs Homer and do it again.
Clearly whoever 'Lol'd' me disagrees....
Most people change for the better as the relationship grows: you learn from joint experience, life knocks the corners off you, you blend with your partner more. I know you've had a bad experience in the past but please don't be frightened of change mate.
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After a long period in denial, knowing deep down that something was wrong but not admitting it to myself, I finally reached the point where I said ''out loud to myself'', so to speak, that I needed to leave.Nobody wakes up one day and out of nowhere decides they want to get divorced, but after so long kidding yourself, when you finally admit it has reached that point, that is exactly how it feels, like someone has flicked a switch that can't just be unflicked...
It caused a lot of hurt, I am sure, but once I had reached the realisation that even if it was salvagable, I didn't WANT to save it, my heart just wasn't in it anymore...I had to call time on it.
In our particular situation, she wasn't working and so was able to divorce me for free thanks to legal aid. We said it was down to my 'unreasonable behaviour' and since neither of us was arguing over any property (we had none) or kids (ditto), I didn't contest it and so we didn't have to go into any details as to what that unreasonable behaviour may have been.
Fast forward to now and my life has totally changed for the better. I am a father and I am in a relationship that works for both of us and feels right. My ex wife is also in a happy, stable relationship and despite the hurt at the time, I am sure we would both agree it was the right thing to do.
When she moved out we argued about a few of the CDs, but the getting divorced part involved paying some money to the court, getting her to sign some forms, paying some more money to the court and getting a very unimpressive document for the divorce decree. They didn't even print it on nice paper.
Like I said, I was broke there was nothing worth trying to split between us, we'd split because we were done with each other, not because anyone was cheating or anything, so no solicitors were involved and I basically did the whole thing with a "do your own divorce" kit I got off Amazon. I think I had to email her two or three times to tell her what was happening. Far more straightforward and less painful than the last couple of years of being married. It is possible to do it without all the nastiness, but I wouldn't count on it.
Don't talk politics and don't throw stones. Your royal highnesses.
My ex wife and I got married at the same place a lesbian couple we know got married....They also split up.
(Can you see where this is going yet..?)
My ex wife is now with one of the women from that lesbian marriage. And the other part of that lesbian couple is now with a man.
Either way, I am afraid the prize for that has already long since been claimed.
In fact, ironically (and I maybe ought to have taken the hint) my ex-wife used to say I was her "Ross off Friends".........
@rocknrolldave
It's good to see you're still building bridges across the dykes though...
*An Official Foo-Approved guitarist since Sept 2023.
His argument was 'but they are gay, they don't want men- why would men be into that?'.
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