Divorce-what's your experience?

RandallFlagg

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

octatonic

RandallFlagg said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

Not if they know about it and approve.
Not everyone buys into the fairy-tale stuff.

RandallFlagg

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

Not if they know about it and approve.
Not everyone buys into the fairy-tale stuff.

I agree, but my answer is valid if the appropriate wedding vows were made. If a couple get married and are selective and specific about the vows and terms of the marriage then fine, crack on and f*ck who you like but I would imagine the majority of weddings are made with traditional vows and marriage is a legal status with legal implications. Either that or just live and have relationships without marriage, that's fine, but don't criticise those who do want and agree with the formal commitment of marriage.

It's not fairy tale, that's a very sarcastic point of view, if you don't believe in that level of commitment and dedication, then don't partake, your choice, but don't dismiss those that find it enriching and fulfilling.

I have been extremely happily married for 18 years and we just had dinner with my parents who have this week celebrated 50 years of marriage. That's no fairly tale, that's real life for us. 

I see no need for sex with other women, in fact the best sex I have had has been with my wife since we turned 40, things just get better and better, and I'm 49 now.

octatonic

RandallFlagg said:

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

Not if they know about it and approve.
Not everyone buys into the fairy-tale stuff.

I agree, but my answer is valid if the appropriate wedding vows were made. If a couple get married and are selective and specific about the vows and terms of the marriage then fine, crack on and f*ck who you like but I would imagine the majority of weddings are made with traditional vows and marriage is a legal status with legal implications. Either that or just live and have relationships without marriage, that's fine, but don't criticise those who do want and agree with the formal commitment of marriage.

It's not fairy tale, that's a very sarcastic point of view, if you don't believe in that level of commitment and dedication, then don't partake, your choice, but don't dismiss those that find it enriching and fulfilling.

I have been extremely happily married for 18 years and we just had dinner with my parents who have this week celebrated 50 years of marriage. That's no fairly tale, that's real life for us. 

I see no need for sex with other women, in fact the best sex I have had has been with my wife since we turned 40, things just get better and better, and I'm 49 now.

I know what you mean, actually.
I only eat chicken and salad every night- I have no need for fish, or pizza, or chocolate cake, or soup.
It is so unnecessary.

Sarcasm? Me?
You're fairly new here, right?

RandallFlagg

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

Not if they know about it and approve.
Not everyone buys into the fairy-tale stuff.

I agree, but my answer is valid if the appropriate wedding vows were made. If a couple get married and are selective and specific about the vows and terms of the marriage then fine, crack on and f*ck who you like but I would imagine the majority of weddings are made with traditional vows and marriage is a legal status with legal implications. Either that or just live and have relationships without marriage, that's fine, but don't criticise those who do want and agree with the formal commitment of marriage.

It's not fairy tale, that's a very sarcastic point of view, if you don't believe in that level of commitment and dedication, then don't partake, your choice, but don't dismiss those that find it enriching and fulfilling.

I have been extremely happily married for 18 years and we just had dinner with my parents who have this week celebrated 50 years of marriage. That's no fairly tale, that's real life for us. 

I see no need for sex with other women, in fact the best sex I have had has been with my wife since we turned 40, things just get better and better, and I'm 49 now.

I know what you mean, actually.
I only eat chicken and salad every night- I have no need for fish, or pizza, or chocolate cake, or soup.
It is so unnecessary.

Sarcasm? Me?
You're fairly new here, right?

I am humbly condescended by someone clearly superior, you have my unwavering respect.

octatonic

RandallFlagg said:

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

Not if they know about it and approve.
Not everyone buys into the fairy-tale stuff.

I agree, but my answer is valid if the appropriate wedding vows were made. If a couple get married and are selective and specific about the vows and terms of the marriage then fine, crack on and f*ck who you like but I would imagine the majority of weddings are made with traditional vows and marriage is a legal status with legal implications. Either that or just live and have relationships without marriage, that's fine, but don't criticise those who do want and agree with the formal commitment of marriage.

It's not fairy tale, that's a very sarcastic point of view, if you don't believe in that level of commitment and dedication, then don't partake, your choice, but don't dismiss those that find it enriching and fulfilling.

I have been extremely happily married for 18 years and we just had dinner with my parents who have this week celebrated 50 years of marriage. That's no fairly tale, that's real life for us. 

I see no need for sex with other women, in fact the best sex I have had has been with my wife since we turned 40, things just get better and better, and I'm 49 now.

I know what you mean, actually.
I only eat chicken and salad every night- I have no need for fish, or pizza, or chocolate cake, or soup.
It is so unnecessary.

Sarcasm? Me?
You're fairly new here, right?

I am humbly condescended by someone clearly superior, you have my unwavering respect.

It is a truth universally acknowledged that no amount of monogamous love, care and respect can beat a double blow job.

Drew_TNBD

Gassage said:

thomasross20 said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

Another good talking point lol

I'm serious. I just don't get it.

You're a sociopath and don't feel love.

Drew_TNBD

RandallFlagg said:

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

Not if they know about it and approve.
Not everyone buys into the fairy-tale stuff.

I agree, but my answer is valid if the appropriate wedding vows were made. If a couple get married and are selective and specific about the vows and terms of the marriage then fine, crack on and f*ck who you like but I would imagine the majority of weddings are made with traditional vows and marriage is a legal status with legal implications. Either that or just live and have relationships without marriage, that's fine, but don't criticise those who do want and agree with the formal commitment of marriage.

It's not fairy tale, that's a very sarcastic point of view, if you don't believe in that level of commitment and dedication, then don't partake, your choice, but don't dismiss those that find it enriching and fulfilling.

I have been extremely happily married for 18 years and we just had dinner with my parents who have this week celebrated 50 years of marriage. That's no fairly tale, that's real life for us. 

I see no need for sex with other women, in fact the best sex I have had has been with my wife since we turned 40, things just get better and better, and I'm 49 now.

Best sex I've had was with your wife as well!

RandallFlagg

Drew_fx said:

RandallFlagg said:

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Gassage said:

What I genuinly don't get is why married couples are so wound up if their partner has sex with someone else.

I so don't get this it's untrue.

It may have something to do with the vows they made to each other as part of the formal and legally binding ceremony of marriage. Not to mention, honour, respect, dedication, faith and the values they hold.

Sex with someone else is a betrayal of these vows and values.

Not if they know about it and approve.
Not everyone buys into the fairy-tale stuff.

I agree, but my answer is valid if the appropriate wedding vows were made. If a couple get married and are selective and specific about the vows and terms of the marriage then fine, crack on and f*ck who you like but I would imagine the majority of weddings are made with traditional vows and marriage is a legal status with legal implications. Either that or just live and have relationships without marriage, that's fine, but don't criticise those who do want and agree with the formal commitment of marriage.

It's not fairy tale, that's a very sarcastic point of view, if you don't believe in that level of commitment and dedication, then don't partake, your choice, but don't dismiss those that find it enriching and fulfilling.

I have been extremely happily married for 18 years and we just had dinner with my parents who have this week celebrated 50 years of marriage. That's no fairly tale, that's real life for us. 

I see no need for sex with other women, in fact the best sex I have had has been with my wife since we turned 40, things just get better and better, and I'm 49 now.

Best sex I've had was with your wife as well!

Unfortunately for you that simply isn't true. That joy is something you have not and will not experience, but I can only assume that the things my wife can do with baby oil, her fingers and her tongue would blow your mind.

That's enough from me on this subject!

boogieman

I think she'd need a bucket of lard, an octopus and a salami to blow Drew's mind. 

octatonic

RandallFlagg said:

Drew_fx said:

Best sex I've had was with your wife as well!

Unfortunately for you that simply isn't true. That joy is something you have not and will not experience

What if she outlives you and Drew finds her on Pensioner Tinder?

Winny_Pooh

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Drew_fx said:

Best sex I've had was with your wife as well!

Unfortunately for you that simply isn't true. That joy is something you have not and will not experience

What if she outlives you and Drew finds her on Pensioner Tinder?

If his charms on here are anything to go by why would she bother?

And why would you even bring a drew-with-grey-ball-hairs thought into this thread?

Sambostar

Has anyone ever wondered how it is that Vicars have so much money?

JezWynd

Sambostar said:

Has anyone ever wondered how it is that Vicars have so much money?

Didn't know they did. Evidence?

mellowsun

octatonic said:

The unfortunate reality for straight guys is there is loads of potential unlimited extra-marital shenanigans for the woman in a relationship (should she be interested in that sort of thing), but not the bloke- at least not without paying for it.

Depends. Back in IT now that's certainly true, but when I was working in a female-dominated profession there was loads of sex on offer. 

guitargeek62

@octatonic ;;

rule #1: Be attractive
rule #2: Don't be unattractive

octatonic

I was specifically talking about open relationship type situations, not cheating on your partner.

holnrew

What so there are men who already have wives going and getting more on the side? I can't even get disabled women to respond to me on dating sites

octatonic

holnrew said:

What so there are men who already have wives going and getting more on the side? I can't even get disabled women to respond to me on dating sites

I have a ... well, not a mate because I don't really respect him, but an acquaintance that is always looking for women to fooch- his wife has no idea.
Married with 2 kids, has absolutely zero problem that he does it.
I've seen him chatting up women, giving them his card when we are out to dinner and she is at the loo.
I don't get involved in it- I'm not going to disclose anything to her- it isn't my place to do it.

Earlier in the thread I talked about a friend's husband who was on sugar daddy dating type sites- he had a string of women he was basically supporting. It was going on for years and years- I had no idea about this but wasn't surprised when I heard.

I've never cheated on anyone- I saw what happened to my mum when she found out my Dad did it, so it just isn't something I'd consider doing.
IMHO it is better if everyone knows what is going on- if you want to have extra martial somethings and your partner is into it too  (or at least doesn't mind you doing it) then go for it.
If they aren't then find someone who is.
I can't really abide the 'cake and eat it too' mentality where one partner plays away and the other partner has no idea.

Drew_TNBD

Winny_Pooh said:

octatonic said:

RandallFlagg said:

Drew_fx said:

Best sex I've had was with your wife as well!

Unfortunately for you that simply isn't true. That joy is something you have not and will not experience

What if she outlives you and Drew finds her on Pensioner Tinder?

If his charms on here are anything to go by why would she bother?

And why would you even bring a drew-with-grey-ball-hairs thought into this thread?

I'll have you know, I'm reet popular with da bitchez.