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been in a relationship with a toxic controlling
woman, wanting to know where i was what i was doing, if i wanted a night out with the lads i didnt love her ! if i was out with her i would be accused of looking at women (not one of my exes ever said stuff like this)Yet i keep going back again and again ..i reckon i walk out 3 times a month ..if a woman in a bikini comes on the tv she will turn channel over
i think i go back because of lonelyness, as i have no kids ,parents ,brothers ,sisters so when we break up its me staring at 4 walls in my house ..
any tips advice anyone experience similar ?did you get out and find someone better ??
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For myself the first step in the journey to finally finding someone wonderful who made me happy was becoming happy with myself on my own first. Find the happiness and joy within yourself and that's something you can share with someone.
Sounds to me like you know deep inside that you'll never be happy with her. The initial loneliness might be a tough thing to face, but you'll always regret it if you continue flogging the proverbial flog horse.
......................is totally wrong. You've already answered your own question haven't you? I was in the same position, got out, now have the best woman you could imagine.
Run like fuck.
And don’t look back.
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Just be single for a while, enjoy yourself and you'll find some one else eventually
2 things to know- this is IMHO of course.
1) this has nothing to do with you- these types of people will do this with whomever they are with.
2) It usually isn't worth hanging around whilst they grow up, should they even want to.
I would be getting out as soon as possible.
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However I’m in the run like fuck camp. Build a new life - it might take time but you’ll get there.
The usual response on Imgur is "Don't put your **** in crazy" which I think sums things up succinctly.
- Continue as-is
- Seek counselling
- End it, and become single, hope that you find someone else
- Try to find someone else first, then end it
I think you should choose 3 or 4Most people would aspire to 3, but in reality 4 happens quite a lot
One married woman we know went out on the primary school Mum's pub night in the village, and pulled someone, went home with him, and did not go home until the morning, and was happy to let everyone know. This is a nuclear version of 3, where you end your relationship with a watershed event, and burn bridges as much as possible (which was the intention of this woman as far as I can tell, she seemed happy with the split)
Ive caught her twice(that i know of) going through my phone looking for stuff ,ive told her she can look anytime just ask ive got nothing to hide,if things dont go to plan she gets all moody i just say go with the flow adapt but she cant,ive never cheated on her if i bumb into exes im not allowed to talk to them but she bumped into her ex when out with me a few months ago spoke with him for 20 mins ,didnt introduce me to him ,but when i asked later she said its one of my exes !.
I hope i'm writing this in a year or so time .
2) Get a (or another) guitar.